Today was my first very busy day on this trip. About 08:00 I
received a text on Facebook Messenger. It seems to be the easiest way to
communicate here, it’s free or very inexpensive. It was Jean Sévérin who had
taken the first bust from Yaoundé to come to Douala and help me with arrangements
for the weekend. He said he had arrived in Douala and would come to my hotel.
On arrival about 9:00 we discussed what we need to do in preparation for our
meetings. We need 5 rooms at a hotel, meals for everyone, and a conference room.
As we finished, he headed off to a hotel we have used in the
past. We agreed to stay in touch via Messenger.
I was working in my room when my phone blew up. Jean-Sévérin
began texting me from the hotel we intend to use, sending me photos of the
conference rooms and hotel rooms with prices. Rooms $25 a night, meals $4 each,
but the small meeting room $500 for two days (in my view outrageous, but that seems
to be the going rate in Douala). Then
someone else in Cameroon texted me on Messenger about coming to visit. Simultaneously
another member began texting me from the Congo on WhatsApp. He’s studying medicine
in eastern Congo on the Rwandan border where war is breaking out. Congolese forces
are attacking M 23 rebels, supported by Rwanda, who are, or claim to be, protecting
the Tutsi minority in the region (and helping themselves to the precious metals
– if you have a smart phone, you have small pieces of eastern Congo with you). He
told me he was hearing gunshots, including automatic weapons. Bullets were whizzing
by his room regularly. I encouraged him to get to a safe place and told him I
would add my prayers to his, which I did immediately.
I had never before conducted three text conversations at the
same time, on two different apps. Tatiana might be proud of me (but probably
not, child’s play for her). After a few minutes it was back to just Jean-Sévérin
and me. Then the phone rang to tell me a visitor had arrived. It was Blandine,
who I baptized about 4 years ago. I went down to meet her and was surprised to
see her with a baby. When last I saw her she had been seriously interested in a
young man in the Church, and I knew he wasn’t married. I waited, trying not to
jump to conclusions. We sat in the lobby and began our conversation. The baby
was restless and crying. “She wants to sleep” Blandine told me.
We walked out to my usual table by the pool and sat to talk.
She explained to me that she had married and this was her second child. But she
hadn’t married the young man in whom she’d been interested. Her parents were
violently opposed to the match, and that carries more weight in Africa than in
the West. If the family is opposed to a match it can ruin your life, and won’t
hesitate to do so. She had fought them, even moving to Nigeria for a while to
get away from the pressure, but in the end, it was too much. So she finally broke
it off.
I asked why her parents were so opposed. “My father is
Bamileke and my mother is Bamum” she said, “when they found out intended was
Bassa, they said no!” The Bamum are a sub-tribe of the Bamileke, which come
from the north-west of the country and which is the largest tribal group in
Cameroon, large enough that they don’t all speak the same local language, but
they know of what tribe they are. The
Bassa are part of another tribal group, from the coastal area around Douala,
which is named for the Duala tribe. There is a hereditary dislike between these
tribes. There is no physical difference between them in height, corpulence,
coloration or anything. They can’t tell each other apart by appearance. I often
hear Cameroonians asking of what tribe others are. So, it’s only a cultural, linguistic
and historical difference. But, like the Hatfields and the McCoys, there’s a hereditary
antipathy. I was sad for her. She’d passed up a marriage to a man who shares her
beliefs, for one who doesn’t, although she said she was happy in her marriage.
I wished her all the best. Family can be a blessing, but it can also be other
things.
The first part of our conversation was difficult because the
baby kept crying. Finally, she left briefly to breastfeed the baby, which then
fell promptly asleep. We talked easily afterwards. We talked about an hour
before she needed to leave about 12:30. Job was supposed to arrive any time. He
had texted me at 11:00 to let me know he was leaving to come and see me. I
waited in my room until 1:00, then I texted Job to ask if he was still coming.
There was no immediate answer, so I went down to have a bite of lunch. Just as
I ordered, I received a response that he was almost at the hotel. I quickly
cancelled my order and waited t meet with him. He arrived a few minutes later.
Back at my table outside we caught up on his news. The Church
has been helping him pay for his studies. He’s about to finish the equivalent
of a bachelor’s degree in engineering. He hopes to get a scholarship to
continue on for a Master’s degree. We caught up on his news and we discussed
the situation in Cameroon and in the local church. He shared his opinion on
what it is needed.
We talked for an hour before he left. I asked him how long
it had taken him to come. He replied “four taxis” which is how people in Douala
measure time and distance in the city. Most taxis run predetermined routes. So
people travel from point to point, this taxi, then connect to that taxi, then
connect to another, and so on. Four taxis is a long route. It had taken him two
hours to go 10 or 15 miles.
After Job left, I sat down for a plate of spaghetti.
Jean-Sévérin texted again, he was still at the hotel waiting for my decision to
accept the offer or not. We didn’t have enough time to make another arrangement,
I will look more next time. I agreed. We needed to put down a deposit to
confirm the reservation. I asked him to come to the hotel at 3:30.
He arrived very close to 3:30. We took one of the hotel taxis.
These taxis are linked to the hotel, so there’s less chance with them of any
shenanigans. They’re more expensive, but are air conditioned and in better
shape that street taxis. The driver’s name was Jules, and his French was slurred
to the point of being mostly incomprehensible. At least he could understand me.
I told him we would need to go to the Akwa Palace Hotel area to change some
money, then go to the Menfis hotel and then back to the Ibis. We agreed on a
price, and off we went. I started rolling up my window so we could start the air
conditioning, it was then Jules disclosed that it didn’t work. Ah.
Jules called a money changer he knew, who, he said, was
trustworthy. We agreed to meet by the Akwa Palace, and he was there when we
arrived. He got in the back seat of the car so as not to attract any attention. Changing money like this is not illegal but there are thieves everywhere. He handed me the CFA bills, which I counted twice, then I handed him the
dollars. He counted and we agreed. I stuffed the wads of bills in several
pockets and off we drove through the terrible Douala traffic to the Menfis. A
few years ago, a great effort had been made to resurface the streets of the
city, which had been notoriously bad. They were quite good for a couple of years.
Now they are getting quite bad again. I commented on this. Jean-Sévérin said it’s
because of all the garbage in the streets. There is in fact a horrible amount
of garbage in the streets. When it rains, which is does heavily here, the
plastic bags and bottles and other detritus clog the storm drains. Water backs
up and begins running down streets like rivers, which degrades the pavement. This
leads to potholes, washboards, and whole sections of missing street. All
because people won’t put garbage in bins.
We arrived at the hotel and spoke with the owner. We went
over the figures, agreed on amounts, and I gave him a down-payment. Jean-Sévérin
stayed at the hotel to oversee preparations. Jules and I drove back to the
Ibis. I had the salad bar for dinner.
Mary
2023-01-05
It suddenly went from slow to very fast and busy. The pictures, both word and photos, create a sense of tension even in reading.The members must greatly appreciate your attention, words of hope, and facilitating their hotels and meals. Sad to read about the marriage restrictions. Interesting that travel time is measured in number of taxis.
Tess Washington
2023-01-07
Thank you for the very busy blog & interesting photos! Sad to read about Blandine's forced marriage even though she said she's happy in it! I wonder if she chose to stay unmarried, will she also be put under pressure?