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Open letter to family and friends

Sunday, October 13, 2013
Tuscaloosa, Alabama, United States
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     Well, we didn't quite expect the visit to turn out like that. My wife of 31 years, Lois, came for a ten day visit last week to Tuscaloosa (from Virginia). We have been separated since 2005. The ten day visit turned into a three day visit, with the last few hours of the third day spent at the attorney's office where we both signed papers agreeing to an uncontested divorce. I don't want to burden you with all of the grim details, but suffice it to say that I have been in an abusive relationship for the majority of those 31 years. Being raised a good Catholic, I always believed that marriage was forever and therefore refused to take the step to end ours. I promised God, Lois and myself. When Lois came for her visit, she brought with her the last straw, and promise or not, we acted. Lois asked me if there was someone else and I told her truthfully that there is not ( and never has been) someone else. I just realized that life is too short to be miserable with someone that doesn't love you and that you don't love in return. Sorry, God. Sorry, Lois. As for me, no sorry, sorry. Our five sons are scattered about the country. None married yet, but all doing well in careers and education so I feel extremely blessed in that department. Please pray for our family. Thanks for listening. Love, Peter.
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JeremyB
2013-10-13

Praying for you guys, Peter. We are very thankful for you here in Tuscaloosa & at Capstone!

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Sandy Nutter
2013-10-14

Love you and praying for you!!!

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Leda
2013-10-14

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God continue to bless you as you have blessed so many through all you do. You are an amazing man.

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Bill Lifsey
2013-10-14

Things will turn out well for you, Peter. You are an exceptionally fine person who does such good work for your fellow man. Keep the faith, keep in touch with your sons and stay positive. You will be a great catch for many a woman.
All the Best.

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Ed Conway
2013-10-14

Wishing you well Peter

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laurieB
2013-10-14

I don't think that God wants people to suffer that much but thank you for your sacrifice of 31 years. Just think of all the homes that would not have been built and all the lives that would not have been changed if you had been too happy in your marriage and stayed home and cocooned instead. Bless you.

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Ellen
2013-10-14

You are loved by all your friends here, who I hope have become like family. Prayers continue for you.

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john
2013-10-14

Sorry to hear the news. As a family we are now five out of five. Your divorce rate is 100%, a bit higher than the national average, but normal just the same. Good luck at your new found freedom. Stay in touch!

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Arch Woodard
2013-10-18

Dear Peter,
So sad to hear your news. You are such a giving and upbeat person that you deserve better. Please continue your important and inspiring work. You are a shining example for the rest of us. I will be praying for your peace and happiness.

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Kay Donaldson
2013-10-22

Peter, my thoughts and prayers are with you. God sees you for the giving, compassionate person that you are, and your heart is right with God. The only perfect person on the planet was killed by some of his at-one-time friends over 2000 years ago, don't forget that. God loves you, and we are all on this road trip of life together. I will pray for peace and understanding for you and your family. Keep on livin' large, and give Teddy & Rosie a hug from their Indiana friends. Kay

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Marvin Walker, Spruce Pine
2013-10-22

Life is in some ways a series of chapters. It sounds like one chapter is ending and a bright new one beginning. There are lessons, hurts and blessings in each chapter.
Peter you are a blessing in the current chapter of my life, as I see you give your utmost for His highest!

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